How to Heal Your Relationship with Your Parents: Three Steps

Maybe she looks at some of her trauma, maybe at some of her own childhood trauma, at some pain, at some grief, at some disappointment. She's not able to be in tune and in love and in seeing her child, because she's looking into something bigger for her, into something difficult. Then in such a child, in us, If this was our story, two concepts developed. Let's call it that. First of all, we developed a function in ourselves so that our mother can see us. In other words, in this non-verbal field, we ask ourselves, as these kids, what I have to do and who I have to be for my mother to look at me.

Ona patrzy na strach, patrzy na jej ból, na jej traumę, na jej grzech, na jej przeszłość. At her disappointment in your childhood and in the context of this metaphor I question that the system settings ask. And this is a very very good question. That question is where did my parent look? Where did my mother look? Where was my dad looking? What was my mother looking at? What was my dad looking at? Since he couldn't look at me. He or she couldn't look in presence and attunement at me.