Stop projecting your unfulfilled dreams on your kids! Esther Wojcicki

Ten odcinek jest w języku angielskim. Jeżeli wolicie go słuchać z napisami, wpadnijcie do naszego YouTube'a. We are about to listen to my conversation with Esther Wojcicki. She's done a lot of interviews, TED talks and wrote a very successful book. I've decided to ask slightly different questions about parenting, I hope that you'll get to know Esther a little bit better thanks to this conversation.

To, co jest najważniejsze, żeby rodzice zauważyli, When they read the book is that your child is not a small version of you. Your child is not your clone. Your child is a separate individual and they'll have different strengths and weaknesses than you do. And you need to be able to support them no matter what stage they are in life. And that means supporting adult children as well as small children. And I think one of the big problems when people get to be adults is that the parents are frustrated because they want to tell that adult child what to do.

Czy kiedyś słyszałeś o Google Video? Nie. No, to dlatego, że to było straszne. I ona już spędziła milion dolarów na to. Milion. Więc musiała kupić YouTube, żeby to zrobić lepiej, tak? Tak, ona była tą, która powiedziała rządowi, że to, co zrobiłam, nie będzie działało. Nigdy. And we now need to spend another billion dollars and buy a company that has no track record. But it's going to work. And that's how they bought YouTube. But can you imagine? She had to admit that in order to move forward. And your youngest daughter is also, she co-founded 23andMe and they're having problems too right now, yes?

So far she's doing very well. We just keep our fingers crossed that everything works. My oldest daughter Susan, the one that was the CEO of YouTube, unfortunately passed away two years ago from non-small cell lung cancer. This is a lung cancer that people get when they never smoked. And it's actually the number one killer of women in the world, all over the world. It is. It is. It's more, more people, women die from this than from breast cancer and colon cancer combined. So it's a big problem, especially because you can't test for it until you are stage four, which means you have six months or nine months to live when they find it.

We did activities that they planned. So here's another crazy thing I did with my students. So I have the largest media program in the United States. It didn't start that way, but it is today, like over 700 kids a year. You started with 19 kids in 1984, yeah? I started with 19, that's right. But it grew and grew and grew. And then in the 19 about, no it was 2010 or so, I started taking students to New York City for a week. I took 52 kids every year. And the question is, what are we going to do in New York?

Każdą noc poszliśmy na wystawę w Nowym Jorku. Podczas dnia poszliśmy na wystawy, takie jak The New York Times, Time Magazine, Vanity Fair, wszystkie inne magazyny. I wtedy robiliśmy rzeczy turystyczne, takie jak Ellis Island, i podróżowaliśmy po całym miasteczku. I wtedy mieliśmy subway pass, który był jednym z tych, gdzie możesz podróżować tak długo jak chcesz. And so we went up and down the city. It was a little bit intense. Tiresome. Well, you know, I tried to get them to go to bed at midnight. But you know, teenagers, it's hard to make them go to bed at midnight. It's also hard to wake them up at 10, yeah? That's right. But I succeeded in finally getting them to go to bed.

And it's still there today. Trust, respect, independence, collaboration and kindness. Google is one of the kindest companies to work for. 24x7. If you're tired, they even have nap stations where you can take a nap. If you're sick, they have doctor on site. If your teeth hurt, they've got a dentist. They try to take care of their employees really well. And I think this culture of caring, respecting, trusting, To po prostu podróżowało przez górę. Bez mojego wiedzy, tak naprawdę.

No checking in. The idea was you have a project to finish, you have a deadline, And that's it. If you want to work on that project at 2 o'clock in the morning, that's up to you. You just get it done. And if your team wants to work at 2 o'clock in the morning, fine. So that was a kind of revolutionary mindset. Because before that, everybody went to work at a specific time, 8 o'clock in the morning. If you were 5 minutes late, that was a problem. And Google changed that. And then that exists all over Silicon Valley now. It's project-based. And it's spreading all over other... It's spreading all over the world, actually.

So it's peer-to-peer, collaborative, project-based learning. And if you don't get it right the first time, you just revise. You continue to revise until it's right. That's the revolution. How do you set boundaries at home when you're trying to be a good parent and give the children independence? Time. You have so much time. I mean, I now have a seven, well, I have ten grandchildren. One of them is seven. And she's in charge. I think my daughter Anne did a great job with this one. Ale dziecko jest naprawdę odpowiedzialne za tak wiele rzeczy i jest bardzo skuteczna w robieniu, na przykład, decyzji o tym, co będziemy jeść na śniadanie.

So I got hit a lot and the only reason that he stopped hitting me Kiedy miałam 13 lat, byłam już wyższa od niego. Jestem 5,10 metra. Mój ojciec był 5,7 metra, moja matka była 5,1 metra. Nie wiem, jak dostałam tę wysokość. Może z Boga. Może nutracja była inaczej. Nutracja była lepsza. Kiedy zaczęłam być większa, myślę, że to sprawiło wielką różnicę. Ciężko jest dotrzeć do kogoś wyższego niż ty. Więc musiałem po prostu zrozumieć, od gdzie on przyjeżdżał, i dlaczego on myślał, że to był najlepszy sposób, by mnie dyscyplinować.

I w końcu zrozumiałem, i zauważyłam, że on był tak zareagowany, jak on się urodził. Więc to było generacyjne, ciągle go przegrywałem. But you were able to make a generation gap. Eventually I was. My brother also had a hard time. He was harder on my brother than he was on me. And my brother got to be six foot two. So he eventually stopped beating both of us. Jego filozofia była taka, że spójrz na rodę, spójrz na dziecko. To była taka filozofia, która była popularna w tamtych czasach. I myślę, że pochodząc z Rosji, Rosjanie wygrali swoich dzieci cały czas.

I myślę, że to jest to, o czym świat się martwi, że ktoś będzie go używać w sposób niebezpieczny, nie tylko dla nich, ale dla wszystkich. Oczywiście spędzam wiele czasu nauczycielami etyki. Specially in a journalism world, you know, you're trying to influence people. You always have to do your best to get both sides of the situation, not just one side. And you have to make sure your facts are correct. You can't... If you don't get them right, it's gonna hurt a lot of people. If you don't get them right, you shouldn't put the piece out, yeah? That's correct. You shouldn't publish. If you can't get the information that you need, the story is over, it's dead.

Możesz napisać o tym, co się dzieje w twoim miejscu, w twoim mieście. Możesz nagrywać podcasty. Tak, w każdym mieście na świecie. Ludzie nie wiedzą czy to prawda czy nie. And you can make it up. And then people quote again. One thing that I do know is that if there's a scandalous piece of information that is posted on the web and that it's not true, it somehow travels faster than a legitimate piece of information because it's got some scandal connected with it. I to, co ludzie muszą zrobić, to zrozumieć, że w mediach społecznych jest wiele faktycznych wiadomości. I wiele faktycznych zdjęć. Jest wiele faktycznego wszystkiego, co się dzieje.